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Old Souls & Seekers

Welcome to Personal Development Without The Fluff a podcast from Guy and Ilan Ferdman of Satori Prime. Through this show, we are going to dive into what it means to truly have it all, to have a ‘10’ in every area of your life. Not an 8 or 9, not a very good, or good enough. But a true 10 out of 10, an epic life experience that you deserve to create each and every waking day!
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May 13, 2019

“There’s an endless number of ways to make money, but there’s not an endless number of ways to make money that will make you really happy.” - Frankie Fihn

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Life is always a journey no matter where you are, what you do, or who you know. Sadly, we often lose sight of our journey because we are conditioned to focus on the dollar.

It’s no secret that money doesn’t buy happiness. But as Robert Kanell said in a previous episode, “Having money helps, but it’s just a tool.”

That’s why on today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are joined by Frankie Fihn to talk about finding the journey that is meant for you. Frankie is the entrepreneur behind many businesses like Sacred Plant Retreat—and in today’s episode, he unpacks the lifestyle that keeps you aligned with your purpose rather than a lifestyle overly focused on monetary gain.

 Tune in to this conversation to go deeper within and gain tools and knowledge that will help you figure out what you really want out of life.

You can learn more about Frankie and Sacred Plant Retreats here

 

“When work feels like work you’re going to have such a hard time moving the boulder. When work feels like play, you’re going to be so much better off.” - Frankie Fihn

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The Cliff Notes:

  • Knowing your purpose in your career is so much more important than just making a lot of money.
  • Find what you are actually good at. Find what you enjoy. Find who you can serve and what they need.
  • Look at business as a collaborative effort rather than a capitalist mindset.
  • If we find the right questions to ask, we’ll know how to find the right answers.
  • Your plan B career can fail just as much as plan A so you may as well invest in plan A.
  • Recognize that some entrepreneurs can succeed by risking it all and putting all eggs in one basket, and other may succeed by slowly developing their business on the side of their day job.
  • Having a voice of doubt is natural. Rather than trying so hard to resist and silence it, just learn to sit with it. Let it pass and know that they are just thoughts and you don’t have to agree with them.

“What the world really needs is for you to innovate your gifts in a new way.” - Frankie Fhin

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Mar 25, 2019
“You can build the sexiest, most amazing car in the world. But if you don’t have the right fuel, you aren’t going anywhere.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman
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We have to get things done. 
Our jobs, our relationships, our classes—at each step in the road, a to-do list forms, and we spend our time checking off the items. 
But often times, the tasks don’t get accomplished, and we then are left wondering why. It turns out that, more often than not, this is due to a lack of energy and awareness in the approach. 
That’s why on today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are jumping in a live call to discuss the difference between masculine and feminine energies. So often, in our lives and careers, we find ourselves leaning to one side more than the other—even when we know the real magic lies in balancing the two forces. 
 
Tune in to this conversation to learn how to elegantly walk the tightrope of masculine and feminine energy!
 

"There's not a right or wrong way to do anything." - Guy & Ilan Ferdman
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The Cliff Notes:
  • Understand that neither masculine nor feminine energy is better than the other.
  • Most people don’t feel safe enough to take action. 
  • You’ll reach the next thing by investing time in anything you’re moved towards. 
  • Tune in to what feels good right now, because that’s the only thing you can see. 
  • Create goals that excite and motivate, rather than induce stress. 
  • In general, the things the most disturb us in the external world are the things that we least like about ourselves
  • Our bodies are metabolic machines, taking energy and moving it through the system.
  • Every challenge you experience is your system’s way of trying to solve childhood trauma. 
Mar 18, 2019
 “Parenting is a self-improvement project in disguise.” - Lisa Howe
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Parenting is the greatest ask. 

You have to raise children to be their best selves, by providing unconditional love and support. In theory, this makes sense—but when the realities of life get pressed against the stressors of child-bearing, it can be hard to see the picture clearly. 
That’s why self-regulation is so important. If we’re not taking care of ourselves, then we cannot expect to take care of another human being. 
On today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are joined by social worker—Lisa Howes—to discuss the best parenting strategies. Over the past 25 years, Lisa has helped children and families navigate the complex hurdles that come with being part of a family unit. 
 
Tune in to this conversation to learn how to approach parenting from a place of curiosity, so you start to learn from your children. 
You can learn more about Lisa Howe at becomingpeaceful.com

“All relationships improve with connection and vulnerability.” - Lisa Howe
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The Cliff Notes:

  • Read more about Dr. Markham’s Aha! Parenting here
  • Peaceful parenting boils down to being kind and firm.
  • Research shows that just 5 deep breaths can slow your thinking to a point of response.
  • A meditation practice for 8 weeks will shrink the amygdala, lowering your flight-fight response.
  • When emotionally triggered—stop, drop, and breathe (where ‘drop’ means ‘to drop your agenda.’)
  • Understand that in almost every case, there is never an emergency.
  • Treat your children as your master teachers, so they grow up not believing you’re infallible. 
  • Read The Whole-Brain Child by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson. 
  • The way you create your children is the way they end up.
  • Our thoughts create our feelings, and those feelings create our beliefs.
  • Find the solution by articulating what you love about your child.

“If a child is having a meltdown—it’s not our job to stop it. It’s our job to help them through it.” - Lisa Howe
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Mar 11, 2019

“If your system is freaking out, stop trying to manage it. Let it freak out.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman

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The smallest thing can set us off.

Maybe it’s a spouse ignoring our request, or a co-worker not responding to our emotional cues. In these moments, we can feel the tidal waves of anger or frustration come crashing down on us.

Defending against their force is a losing battle, but we try anyways. This attempt creates even more velocity in the rabbit hole of negative thinking, and we findw ourselves spiraling out.

That’s why on today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are discussing how we can create a spiritual pattern interrupt that helps in these high-pressure moments. By recognizing and respecting what’s going on in our system—we can tune in to an untapped frequency that will guide us to safety.

Tune in to this conversation to learn how to properly reframe your system during emotional hijacking!  

“There are so many things that rob us of our peace and sanity in the moment—but also our experience of feeling in love and connected with those around us.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman

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The Cliff Notes:

  • Recognize when your bodily sensations are distorting your mind.
  • Even when love is present, the system can often have difficulty seeing it.
  • On a fundamental level, being in a triggered state feels unsafe.
  • During freak-outs, honor your system by telling yourself that everything is going to be OK.
  • Reframe when your body gets hijacked as an opportunity of parts yourself to be highlighted.
  • Because humans are social creatures, a loss of connection feels very close to death.
  • Differentiate between connection and drama masquerading as connection.
  • Most people are in-pattern so much that they forget they’re even in-pattern.
  • It doesn’t matter how much money you’ve spent on self-development—you’re still a human being.
Mar 4, 2019

“A life driven by the ego is a life not worth living.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman

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Your ego has devastated your life.

We might not be aware of this simple fact, but it’s the truth. The voice inside our head is the thing that inflicts all of our emotional pain—it’s our ego.

To free yourself from its hold, you must learn to differentiate between it and you. This separation is often difficult because the ego clouds our perception of reality.

That’s why on today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are discussing how the ego functions, what it’s robbed you of in your life, and what tools you can use to bring an awareness of it to your daily life.

Tune in to this conversation to hear Guy & Ilan unpack the mechanics of ego, so you know its tendencies next time it tries to corrupt your well-being!

“A negative experience is a contradiction to the ego’s opinion.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman

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The Cliff Notes:

  • Plot point: a significant event within a plot that spins the action around in another direction
  • Try to differentiate between reality and your perception of it.
  • People think their ego is their best friend because it talks to you all day long.
  • While it’s not easy to hear, understand that all emotional pain is self-inflicted.
  • Ask yourself: if today was your last day on earth, how would you assess if your life was well-lived?
  • It’s much more difficult to drive your own life than to just be a passenger.
  • Understand that the ego can drive you to have a very successful financial life.
  • Take the oath of living a life 100% committed to full abundance.

“The world of the ego is a world of constant agony and suffering.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman

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Feb 25, 2019

“Your system has to be met with an open heart or else it just collapses.” - Guy and Ilan Ferdman

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Parenting is uncomfortable.

Those with children say it’s like constantly holding a mirror up to yourself. While that might be flattering when your child shows kindness or listens carefully—often times, they reveal the parts of us that we don’t want the rest of the world seeing.

When this happens, it’s easy to lose sight of our parental responsibilities. We get triggered, and the heat of the moment takes over.

On today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are sharing the parenting strategies on how to deal with our emotions in these high-pressure situations. By sitting back asking our children how they feel, and sharing our own vulnerabilities, we can alleviate the pressure and resume to a state of peace.

Tune in to this conversation to hear Guy and Ilan unpack these mechanics in a live-coaching call!

“Be with what’s so—instead of trying to change what’s happening because it’s uncomfortable.” - Guy and Ilan Ferdman

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The Cliff Notes:

  • Try to be with the fact of feelings instead of adding to or rationalizing them.
  • Differentiate between aggression and sadness covered up by anger.
  • Solve others problems by sharing your own vulnerabilities.
  • Provide language for your children by asking them how they feel.
  • Reframe OCD-like behaviors by asking: are you choosing to be rigid or flexible?
  • Recognize whether you’re truly out of control, or if there’s actually safety in your state.
  • As a parent, relieve yourself of the responsibility to be infallible.
  • Your children want you to be happy, so try to understand their behaviors through that filter.

“Humanizing yourself to your children levels the playing field and allows them access to come for support.” - Guy and Ilan Ferdman

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Feb 18, 2019

“The majority of us are clouded in programming and cultural conditioning around our sexuality.” - Jaiya

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We don’t want to look at our shadows.

Instead, we look at what’s ahead, focused on the next task at hand or ‘to-do’ we need to cross off our list. Doing this works well—we’ll build the business of our dreams with the relationship and family we never thought was possible.

But inside, it’s a different story. Our shadows still scream for our attention. That is until the one day that we decide to confront them head on.

On today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are joined by Jaiya to discuss how we can use our sexuality to promote internal healing. By approaching sex with this mindset, we open up new floodgates of awareness that can permeate to all aspects of our life.

 

Tune in to this conversation to hear how we can use sexuality to turn suffering into transcendence.

 

You can learn more about Jaiya here

“Orgasm is a moment of oneness.” - Jaiya

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The Cliff Notes:

  • Surveys show that 76% of women have faked their pleasure.
  • Think of existence as creating a vessel for others to seem themselves through.
  • Awakening and enlightenment is hidden in our shadows - the places we are least likely to look.
  • There are many types of sexual blueprints: energetics, sensual, sexual, and shape-shifter.
  • Separate your experiences from the label, so you can enjoy the sensations as orgasmic.
  • Even in your most accomplished checklist of life, you can still find yourself depressed.
  • Research is starting to show high treatment of PTSD with drug trials of MDMA and psilocybin.
  • Instead of spiritually bypassing, understand that suffering leads to transcendence.
  • Research shows that children in traumatic situations release DMT to experience different worlds.

“It wasn’t about what I do. It was about what I am being and reflecting.” - Jaiya

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Feb 11, 2019

“The #1 condition on the planet is a lack of self-worth.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman

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Personal development can become complicated.

 

The more time we spend on the journey of growth, the more we learn how much room there is left to grow. If we’re not careful, this paradox can become crippling.

 

However, the antidote to this anxiety is closer than we think. Just by being invested in the space of personal development, you are asking the right questions, which means you know the answers you’re looking for.

 

On today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are discussing the essence of self-improvement. Often times, we get tunnel vision and become so focused on the mission of bettering ourselves that we forget to zoom out and applaud our efforts in the first place.

 

Tune in to this conversation to learn continue the pursuit of personal development!

 

“When you ride a bicycle—there aren’t enough books in the universe that can teach you balance.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman

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The Cliff Notes:

  • A lack of self-worth is caused by the avoidance of sensation in the body.
  • The first step to abundance is reclaiming the ability to feel.
  • Understand that most problems are rooted in generations passing them down.
  • Your world is just a reflection of the energy that is inside of you.
  • Shift the frequency of your energy instead of changing the way you think.
  • Making headway doesn’t work because you’re using your head; instead use your heart.
  • Read The Talent Code by Daniel Coyle
  • Research shows that the brain can operate up to 3000x faster when wrapped in more myelin.
Feb 5, 2019

“The quality of your life depends on the questions you’re asking.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman

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Many of us are sensitive.

An offhand comment at work from a boss, or a challenging look from a significant other—these are the things that can often set us off course.

But are these moments actually doing what we say they’re doing? Or—have we just told ourselves that we’re sensitive, and we’re choosing to hold that identity to support the narrative.

On today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, Guy & Ilan pull back the curtain behind identity. When we attach labels to ourselves, we lock into a mode of thinking, closing off the doors to what’s possible.

Tune in to learn how to bypass this cognitive error we all make!

“All that’s required for resolution is: awareness.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman

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The Cliff Notes:

  • There are 2 types of people: those who emit energy and those who take on energy.
  • Uncork your problems by asking what part of me is being triggered right now.
  • Be aware of when you’re validating your thoughts by selecting the experiences to remember.
  • Don’t be committed to a single outcome.
  • Choose to perceive sensitivity as a strength; vulnerability is what drives success.
  • Look out for when your actions throw you back into survival patterns.
  • All that’s required for resolution is awareness.
  • Personality comes from the word “persona” — which means mask.
  • Every 7 years, your cells have regenerated to form a completely new being.

“The outside world is there to serve you, to help you see the things inside you that you’re not willing to see.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman

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Jan 28, 2019

“There’s a difference between intellectually understanding something and embodying and truly knowing it.” - Jason Prall

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Everybody is talking about alignment.

 

From yoga to organic eating, it seems that everywhere you turn—there is another business or person trying to sell alignment.

 

When we begin to make the strides toward centering ourselves, we learn that alignment is not something you can acquire from the outside world.

 

Rather, we must look internally to find our true center.

 

On today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are joined by Jason Prall of the Human Longevity Project to discuss alignment, and how we can find it. Jason Prall is a Longevity and Optimal Health Practitioner who works with individuals to provide solutions for those struggling with weight loss or suffering from complex health issues that their doctors have been unable to resolve.

 

Tune in to this conversation to learn how to gauge your center, so you can make the necessary adjustments everyday to stay aligned!

 

You can learn more about Jason Prall here

 

“Looking outward is part of the path inward.” - Jason Prall

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The Cliff Notes:

  • It’s a Western idea to have a purpose—instead, seek and find meaning.
  • The capitalistic division of labor makes us forget that everything is connected.
  • No matter what you master, you will learn the same thing.
  • Read Mastery by Robert Greene.
  • Define your central axis of alignment so you know when you’re out of it.
  • The body is here to express the subjective.
  • Be aware of when you are judging the judger.
  • The pain will not go away, but you can stop the suffering.
  • Differentiate between reality and the talking points that major news/media outlets are serving to you.
  • Look at how the Internet is proving what connection isn’t.
  • Contrary to popular belief, you don’t have to do anything to be loved.
  • When you find the edges, you then know where the center lies.
  • A mother will read the baby’s immune system through saliva and provide nutrients through breastmilk

“Right now we’re in an era where scientists aren’t talking to each other.” - Jason Prall

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Jan 21, 2019

“I’ve had the biggest breakthroughs in my life when I’ve just stood still.” - Amina AlTai

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We’re told busy is better.

Wake up, workout, hustle all day, burn the midnight oil on your side hustle—this is the routine for success. Or, that’s at least what we’re told.

But it turns out when we follow this protocol and frantically run about town, the money doesn’t cannot find us

When we instead choose to sit with our thoughts and breathe through the anxieties—we can more swiftly navigate the puzzles and challenges of our day-to-day. And that is when the true wealth comes flowing our way.

On today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are joined by brand strategist, wellness consultant, and speaker—Amina AlTai—to discuss the mechanics behind this mindset.

Tune in to learn how to achieve abundance without the frenzied demeanor the world tells us we need.

You can learn more about Amina AlTai here

“We think we need all of these tools and frameworks, but you have to meet people where they need to go.” - Amina AlTai

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The Cliff Notes:

  • Take stock of what you need to celebrate in yourself and what you need to release
  • Relieve yourself of the need to constantly be in motion
  • When we are authentic with ourselves, we create the conduits towards clarity
  • If you are constantly moving around, then money cannot find you  
  • The rise in mid-life crises is due to core beliefs changing and the rising collective consciousnessness
  • There has never been an easier time for you to create a business from your gift
  • You can only see the benefits of meditation after conducting a 30-day meditation challenge
  • At the end of the day—humans just want love, connection, and peace
  • Understand that preparedness comes from a place of ego

“We are never done. We have never arrived. We are never done peeling back the layers.” - Amina AlTai

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Jan 14, 2019

We want to achieve certain milestone.

 

So we write down these goals, and then make the daily efforts to hopefully achieve them one day. But typically that doesn’t happen, and we find ourselves in the same spot that we started in.

 

On today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are reframing our understanding of goal-setting. Often times, the personal development space will put great emphasis on the importance of setting goals. However, if we take a step back and acknowledge how we truly move through space and time, we see that this method doesn’t help us achieve our dreams.

 

Tune in to this conversation to learn how to initiate forward progress through energy, and not goal-setting.

 

“You are limiting yourself when you write down goals.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman

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The Cliff Notes:

  • Hope disappears the moment you step up to perform the task
  • Don’t create goals out of a place of lacking
  • The waves you emit manifest and mirror the energy inside of you
  • External goal-setting is like putting a band-aid on a cut that’s never going to heal itself
  • Ask yourself: am I safe right now? Then, take note of how you feel answering that question
  • The buffers you’ve placed between you and the world are killing your ability to feel
  • Give your anxiety space to be, instead of reaching for external things to fix it
  • Say thank you to your triggers, for they remind you of the things you’ve been avoiding
  • Let the river move you instead of trying to figure out how to move the river

 

“The body is so much more connected to soul than the mind ever will be.”  - Guy & Ilan Ferdman

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Jan 7, 2019

“You can either be right or I can be in love.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman

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In theory, relationships should be effortless.

 

When two people unconditionally love each other, there are no moments of setback because love conquers all.

 

But we all know this isn’t the reality. The obstacles and hurdles of life often face us with great force, and our anxiety gets the best of us.

 

That’s why on today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are discussing how to save our relationships. During the most difficult times, it’s easy to lose sight of our commitments and fall into the trap of ego.

 

Tune in to this conversation to learn how to defend against the internal explosion of anxiety, so you can stay with what’s important.

 

“Everyone’s point-of-view is 100% accurate and valid.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman

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The Cliff Notes:

  • Catch the energies inside your body before they lead to thoughts
  • Relationships are a commitment to love, connection, and intimacy
  • Relieve headache by understanding that everyone’s point-of-view is valid
  • Tap into compassion by trying to understand the perspective of those around you
  • Seek out the uncomfortable conversations where you can own up to your mistakes
  • Reframe your relationships by understanding the hurdles that were required to go through
  • Realize that the incident is a highlighter for a much deeper, more meaningful issue
  • Ego is driven by protectors we create during childhood

 

“Realize that the incident is a highlighter for a much deeper thing.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman

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Dec 31, 2018

“The breakthroughs that one seeks are very rarely inside the arena that they’re having the breakdowns in.”  - Guy & Ilan Ferdman

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Scheduling complicates our lives.

We wake up every morning, go to work, maybe hit the gym, and then spend time with our loved ones. This segmentation of time tricks our systems into believing this is how life works—that a problem during work hours is caused by something during work hours or stagnation in a relationship is because of something inside the relationship.

 

When we zoom out, we can see the real mechanics at play. More often than not, an issue in one arena of life is caused by something in a completely unrelated place.

 

On today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are discussing how to achieve these breakthroughs. By stepping outside the logical realm and accessing the energy within ourselves, we can transcend the constraints our scheduled lives put on us.

 

Tune in to this conversation to hear how to breakthrough your roadblock, so you can have it all!

“The way that you judge yourself is the way you judge others.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman

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The Cliff Notes:

  • Very rarely are your breakthroughs in the arenas you are having your breakdowns in.
  • Understand that you’re focusing on a question, not so much a problem.
  • Recognize when you are getting angry at yourself, not the externalities.
  • See how the circumstances are shining a light on inside yourself.
  • The way you do one thing is the way you do everything.
  • Feel instead of trying to band-aid your problems with positive thinking, hypnotherapy exercises, etc.
  • There is no cause and effect, instead all affects all.
  • Reprogramming the subconscious comes from working with energy, not logic.
  • You can only create more safety by expanding your system, not your mind.
  • Identity traps you in a needing to verify that you are right.

 

“Mindset can change the story.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman

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Dec 24, 2018

“Everybody has a right to their own soul.” - Peter Smith

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Most people have a finite understanding of life.

Society drills this into our heads—the idea that we’re born one day and we die another is something most of us never question. But what happens when we look inward, and challenge this simplistic notion of life?

We start to invite the ideas of afterlife into our consciousness. And when we do this, our  day-to-day changes drastically. Those triggers and moments of anxiety no longer have weight, because they are a fraction of our infinite existence.

On today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are joined by Peter Smith. Peter is the President of the Newton Institute, and in this conversation—he dives deep into the worlds of existence that we typically don’t look at.

Tune in to this conversation to reframe your understanding of death, so you can live a more meaningful life.

You can learn more about The Newton Institute here

“Fundamentally, we are spiritual beings having human experiences.” - Peter Smith

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The Cliff Notes:

  • Read Journey of Souls by Michael Newton
  • Activate the immortal soul within yourself to transcend the human condition
  • Choose to perceive conflict as an opportunity to learn
  • Raise the vibration of humanity to new eras of human consciousness
  • Research shows 70% of the U.S. population is on some sort of pharmaceutical drug
  • There is a use-case for anxiety, we’re not supposed to walk down a dark alley at 3AM
  • Recognize when struggle is the source of your connection
  • Understand that the people around you chose to have their experience
  • Find the balance between letting something be and administering guidance
  • “Magic becomes more real the more you believe in it.”

“We have a responsibility not just to humanity, but what goes beyond that.” - Peter Smith

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Dec 17, 2018

“You’re most likely living a reflection of what’s around you.” - Ajit Nawalkha

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Success is difficult to achieve.

That’s because we grow up in a society or family that tells us a specific definition of it, and then our adult life has us steering the ship toward that target point. During the journey, we think about the destination, which entirely removes us from the moment (where success lives.) So the question becomes: how do we reorient our definition?

On today’s episode of Personal Development  Without The Fluff, we are joined by entrepreneur, speaker, coach, and author—Ajit Nawalkha—to discuss success. Ajit co-founded the company Mindvalley and is the author of Live Big.  In this episode, he debunks some myths around success, and why we must separate our passions from our interests or what’s exciting us in the moment.  

Tune in to this conversation, so you can more purposefully pursue your future!

You can learn more about Ajit Nawalkha here and order his book Live Big here

“Purpose is not where you get to. Purpose is where you are.” - Ajit Nawalkha

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The Cliff Notes:

  • Distinguish between external success and the feelings of internal success
  • Nail down your definition of success before pursuing any specific way of life
  • Don’t fall into the trap of listening to the highlight reels of external messaging
  • Start your side business while you still have your job
  • Let your dream build you instead of trying to build your dream
  • Separate passions from interests or things you’re excited about
  • Find the things that have stuck with you for a very long time
  • Understand that not all passions are profitable
  • Research shows higher depression rates in entrepreneurs
  • Set long-term goals - life is not year-to-year    

“A highlight reel is not your life.” - Ajit Nawalkha

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Dec 10, 2018

“Bringing a spiritual response to loss is about keeping your heart open.” - Uma Girish

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Nothing compares to the pain of loss.

When someone we love dies, we feel the ache coursing through our entire bodies. We are convinced that there is no light at the end of the tunnel.

But if we take a moment to look at the impermanence of nature around us, we can understand that the human soul is designed to deal with loss. It’s our society that creates ideas, like having to deal with it by yourself, that complicate our relationship with the inevitable grieving we all experience.

That’s why on today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are joined by Uma Girish to discuss grief. Uma is a grief guide & author, and in this episode—she shares her insights on the best methods for dealing with loss.

Tune in to this conversation to learn how to approach grief in the most healthy way possible.

You can learn more about Uma Girish here

“People have a great need to tell their story of loss.” - Uma Girish

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The Cliff Notes:

  • The first step to grief therapy is venting, or telling the story of your loss
  • Learn how to handle your emotions with journaling, breathwork, and letter writing
  • Understand how the ideas you were exposed to as a child shape your views today
  • Nature lives under the law of impermanence, everything that is living will die
  • Trauma will be passed on generation to generation until someone stops it
  • Recognize when you’re using guilt as a way to beat yourself up
  • Sit and cry instead of jumping straight to positive thinking and gratitude journaling
  • In eastern cultures, grief is more of a community experience than individual
  • The American ideals of individualism prevent us from seeing offers and opportunities of help  

“Grieving is a form of self-care.” - Uma Girish

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Dec 3, 2018

“It’s not about feeling good in life. It’s about getting better at feeling.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman

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It’s easy to say no.

All you have to do is find something else to do, and over time you will forget about the moment you submitted to your anxiety and fear.

However, the next time that situation presents itself, the same feelings will resurface and you won’t have the built skillset required to transcend the challenge.  

That’s why on today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are joined by Jenny Taylor to discuss the importance of saying yes. Often in our lives, we run into challenging situations that trigger our reflex to turn the other way. When we do this, we validate our anxieties, making it more difficult to conquer them.

Tune in to this conversation to hear how to reverse this habit, and create a more forward-thinking approach to your day-to-day!

You can learn more about Jenny Taylor here

“’I’m not worthy’ is the largest epidemic of human beings on planet earth.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman

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The Cliff Notes:

  • Be careful of slipping into other abusive relationships after removing yourself from them
  • Most have not spent the time to look inside themselves, even the most successful people
  • The only way to stay in victim energy is to have a villain
  • We wear masks and play roles because at the root, we are scared and fearful
  • Most people’s anger is attached to something that served and protected them
  • Approach parenting as an opportunity to learn about yourself
  • Recognize when an attachment to work becomes unhealthy
  • Just because something produces a result doesn’t mean it’s the best method
  • For self-care, take the time to meditate and journal
  • Understand if fear and sadness lie at the root of your anxiety
  • Ask yourself whether alcohol consumption is doing positive or negative things

 

Nov 26, 2018

“Asking questions about being puts you further away from it.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman

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We think there’s a fix for all of our problems.

But sometimes, we meet our match. Maybe it’s a work deadline, or a relationship issue—something that ultimately tips the scale.

In these moments, we fish for our mantra or breathing exercise, anything that will neutralize the anxiety. But what if instead of searching for a solution, we surrendered to the problem?

It turns out that there are times when this is the best answer, when letting go letting go is the only solution.

That’s why on today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are discussing the neverending game of surrender. In today’s anxiety-filled world, it’s difficult to find silence and being with so much external noise.

Tune in to this conversation to learn how to surrender, so you can find peace & calmness inside yourself.

“Your opportunity in sadness is as great as your opportunity in happiness.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman

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The Cliff Notes:

  • Reframe the feeling of being destroyed as being “de-story-ed”
  • Our culture is shifting from individualism to a tribal framework
  • Don’t label your states as positive or negative, they are a constantly swinging like a pendulum
  • Watch if the mind reacts differently without creating too much story around it
  • Focus on the auditory while meditating to make the act of being easier
  • Distinguish between whether you want money or safety and support
  • Understand that inside the chaos is what pushes evolution forward
  • When it comes to mastery, the people at the front are all seeing the same thing
  • Shift your awareness from reacting to curiosity for why we are you reacting a certain way



Nov 19, 2018

“It’s always about how they feel, rather than how they think.” - Poppy & Geoff

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A relationship can be difficult

 

Often, we find ourselves sitting on the couch bickering when all we want is to exist in peace and  harmony. When the reality doesn’t align with our hopes and wishes, we become frustrated and fall deeper into the wormhole of negativity.

 

So the question becomes: how do you create a relationship that facilitates the good emotions: happiness, excitement, and motivation.

 

On today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are joined by Poppy & Geoff to uncover the secrets. Poppy & Geoff’s story is a unique one—at college graduation, they broke off their relationship, only to be reunited 37 years later. They share their insights on the importance of communication and fostering a deeper connection with your partner.

 

Tune in to this conversation to learn how to reframe your relationship, so you can approach it with a more positive outlook.

 

You can learn more about Poppy & Geoff here

“Share what you’re thinking. Don’t fill in the blanks.” - Poppy & Geoff

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The Cliff Notes:

  • Research shows that tactile tools help you sort thoughts from highly charged emotions.
  • Seek out solutions that make you feel better, not just think better thoughts.
  • Take the Myers—Briggs to get a personality assessment based on preference.
  • Extroversion/introversion is defined as how people get their energy.
  • Create an overarching context of: nobody can do anything to you.
  • Gunnysacking is when a person stores grievances to share at one time.
  • Share your worst fears to open the door to the other person.
  • We perceive people will respond in the way we would operate.
  • Studies show when your heart rate goes over 100 BPM, you lose your ability to hear.
  • Ask your children what they think the consequences of their behavior should be.

 

“Cognitive bypass is when you don’t censor your words.” - Poppy & Geoff

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Nov 12, 2018

“You can’t learn anything if you don’t have a consequence.” - Lauren Zander

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We think we have our secrets.

But it’s actually the opposite—our secrets have us. As we try to keep up the balancing act of maintaining that perfect life, we find ourselves expending a great deal of brainpower to make sure all the lies we tell remain sealed up.

We think we can continue the charade forever, but that isn’t possible.

At some point, the truth has to come out.

That’s why on today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are joined by Lauren Zander, author of Maybe It’s You, to discuss how lying is ruining our lives. Whether it’s to ourselves or other people, Lauren unpacks the many different types and effects of lying.

Listen to this episode so you can begin to come clean to those around you and to yourself.

You can learn more about Lauren Zander here

“How do you think you are true to yourself if you don’t tell the truth?” - Lauren Zander

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The Cliff Notes:

  • Write the book from your own personal experience instead of external research.
  • It’s okay to exaggerate or withhold, as long as you don’t try to represent it as the truth.
  • Telling the truth will set you free, because you will only then learn the lesson.
  • You don’t have your secrets, your secrets have you.
  • Be aware of the justifications you’re making to alleviate the feeling of unworthiness.
  • Starting to rewire comes from a vision and then the gap getting filled.
  • Find the fun in abandoning the need to fulfill an ideal.
Nov 5, 2018

“If you’re not being yourself, it’s going to shine through.” - Marc Mawhinney

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We see successful people everywhere.

Instagram, our Facebook feeds, covers of magazines, the movies—everywhere we turn, there is another ‘successful’ person doing what they do best: being successful.

This constant exposure to their brands and messaging burns images of success into our brains. So when we go to launch our own businesses and brands, we often try to emulate these figures we see on our screens.

That is the mistake.

Your unique voice is the ticket success.

That’s why on today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are joined by the business coach for life coaches—Marc Mawhinney—to discuss how to tap into that unique voice. Regardless of your business or brand, creating marketing messaging that is uniquely yours will help cut through the noise.

Tune in to this conversation to learn how to tap into that point-of-view, so you can separate yourself from the crowd.

You can learn more about Natural Born Coaches here

“If you have a crappy personal life, it’s going to get reflected in your business. If you have a crappy business, it’s going to get reflected in your personal life.” - Marc Mawhinney

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The Cliff Notes:

  • Refrain from the get-rich-quick/Internet marketing thinking in the life coach industry.
  • On average, it takes 3 months to set up a solid foundation for a life coach.
  • Be skeptical of certification schools’ emphasis on the art of coaching and not the business of coaching.
  • Ask the foundational questions: Who are you helping and how are you helping.
  • Understand that money is the marker of value.
  • Don’t be afraid to be polarizing in your opinion.
  • Create content in the medium you feel most comfortable with (emails, Facebook Lives, etc.)
  • It’s okay to not know how the skillset you’re practicing is going to enhance everything else.
  • Balance your marketing efforts between organic content creation and paid advertisement.
Oct 29, 2018

“When you align with your path, the universe goes, ‘Here you go. You finally woke up.’” - Katerina Cozias

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Aging hurts.

But that’s because we assign it too much weight. Each year, we blow out the candles and sing ‘Happy Birthday,’ only to be met with the thought while lying in bed that night—is it ever going to happen?

That’s why on today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are joined by Katerina Cozias to discuss overcoming those limiting beliefs. As we age and think we’re seeing our potential slide away, we forget the reality: that it’s actually never too late. No matter how old we think we are, we can summon our spirit to accomplish whatever our wildest dreams may be!

Tune in to this conversation to learn how to make that happen, and launch yourself towards your dreams instantly!

You can learn more about Katerina Cozias here

“When your authenticity comes out, you contribute.” - Katerina Cozias

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The Cliff Notes:

  • Recognize when you are in an environment purely focused around money.
  • Contrary to outside opinion, it’s never too late to pursue your dreams.
  • Determine where you lie on the masculine-feminine energy spectrum.
  • Power comes from the balance of the masculine and feminine energies.
  • When you have the most to offer is when you feel the least valuable.
  • Because of the Internet, age has become less of a factor in determining success.
  • Imagine what the 90 year-old version of yourself would say to the current you
  • Read Mastery by Robert Greene
  • Capitalism blocks lanes of connection by focusing on competition.
  • Lead from a place of destiny, not fear.

“I really take a stand for people’s ability to live into their dreams.” - Katerina Cozias

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Oct 22, 2018

“Happiness is when you are consumed in another.” - Rabbi Weinstein

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We think we know ourselves.

Our internal monologue tells us that our situation makes sense and our actions are justified. But the truth isn’t in the story we tell ourselves.

Rather, it exists somewhere beneath the mind. Call it a soul, heart, spirit, you name it—when we venture beyond the typical avenues of intellectualizing, we transcend the ego by feeling something greater.

That’s why on today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are joined by Rabbi Weinstein to discuss ego. Our relationship with ourselves is constantly flooded with noise in our heads, making it difficult to accurately perceive reality.

 Tune in to this conversation to learn how to clear the fog, and more peacefully exist with yourself.

You can learn more about Rabbi Weinstein here

“Both the head and the mind are simply expressions of a much deeper part of ourselves.” - Rabbi Weinstein

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The Cliff Notes:

  • Before having a conversation, try to define the terms to get on the same page.
  • Ego is defined as anything that is self-oriented.
  • Read 12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos by Jordan Peterson.
  • Distinguish between ego-less thoughts and feelings, and ego-filled.
  • Recognize that the most powerful part of ourselves is beyond the mind or heart, but in faith.
  • We only understand how troubling self-orientation is when we meet a challenge.
  • Substances are just band-aids to the thing that ego is actually pointing at.
  • A big part of self-development work is being realistic about what’s going to be effective.
  • To work on your ego, understand what causes your ego to react or come up.
  • Read Ryan Holiday’s The Obstacle Is The Way and Ego Is The Enemy
  • Reframe your approach by viewing obstacles as opportunities  

“The more myself is in the way the more I stumble over myself.” - Rabbi Weinstein

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Oct 15, 2018

“Ask your body to release—easily and effortlessly—that which is not necessary.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman

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Exercise and eating healthy demands time and energy.

And usually, our days get filled to the brim with commitment and obligation. So we’re left cutting corners, and that typically means skipping the gym and ordering take-out on our way home from work.

These shortcuts feel justified in the moment. A long day at work ensures job security which promotes overall long-term health. But what is long-term health if we’re not exercising and instead eating pizza in front of the TV every night?

On today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are diving into the mind-body connection. So often, we fall into the trap of thinking that these are two separate entities, when in fact they exist as one. Our mind is inextricably linked to our body, and vice versa.

Tune in to this conversation to correct the story you are telling yourself, and as a result connect the dots between the mind and body.

“If you’re complaining about something, you’re addicted to the story.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman

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  • Distinguish between transformation, limitation, and habit.
  • Recognize when you are the root of the cycle of bad emotions being passed around.
  • Create the inner sanctity inside you instead of seeking it out in other people.  
  • Get a coach for whatever it is that you want to master in your life.
  • Have honest conversations with your body if you want to change it.
  • Separate the story from the reality when dissecting the things you are unhappy with.
  • Food is not supposed to make you feel tired. Eat a diet that invigorates instead of dampens.
  • Recalibrate your brain to understand how little is required to feel good.
  • Anti-inflammatories stop the natural healing process of the body.
  • External programs like media induce self-hypnosis on that unconscious level.

“Meditation is self-hypnosis. You get to suggest things to yourself at those times that go way deeper into your subconscious than any conscious thought you might have.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman

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